Celebrate “Color Your Life Happy Day”–Make Happiness a Habit

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My mom was really surprised when I picked her up in a limo for a Mother’s Day Brunch one year.

Did you make New Year’s resolutions?

If you stuck to them, congratulations. If you’re like most of us, however, those resolutions evaporated from your consciousness in a few weeks.

Regardless of how you fared in this annual practice, here’s an opportunity to start anew, but with just one resolution: make happiness a habit.

What is Color Your Life Happy Day?

August 9th “Color Your Life Happy Day”, is a day to participate in something you enjoy, some activity that will make you happy and others too. Then make a decision to make it a habit to continue finding joy, pleasure, and a way to help others for the rest of the year.

Happiness is not a destination, but the things we do along the way as we live our lives. At the end of their lives, many wish they had slowed down, worked less, and spent more time enjoying family, friends and fun activities. Don’t let this be you.

Regrets are a waste. Do the things that bring you and others joy and happiness everyday.

The Origin of Color Your Life Happy Day

This special celebration was inspired by the memory of my mother, Mildred S. Morris, who would have turned 106 years old this year  (she passed at age 92 in 2002.) She was a hairstylist by trade, but spent her life making people happy with her music. She played piano and organ from childhood through her mid 80’s for many churches, organizations and events. Everyone who ever heard her play was touched by her lively and fervent style.

How to Participate

Please join me in starting to make happiness a habit on Color Your Life Happy Day, August 9th.

        You may choose to

      • take time off to read a book you’ve longed to finish
      • join the courageous who decide to get control of the clutter that has been making them very unhappy
      • rent a Harley or Segway to go for a fun ride
      • become a tourist in your own town and visit a museum or other local treasure you’ve never seen
      • visit a local convalescent home to spend some time with a resident who never gets visitors.

 

Color Your Life Happy Day, is not just for today, but every day.

Take a picture showing your happiness habit and post it on Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest or Facebook using the  hashtag #coloryourlifehappy.

Remember, it doesn’t have to be grand or spectacular by anyone else’s standards. It just has to be something that makes you and/or others happy.

I’m looking forward to the wonderful array of photos. Don’t forget the hashtag #coloryourlifehappy

How to Get More Happiness Ideas

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Here are a few from my book, Color Your Life Happy: Create Your Unique Path and Claim the Joy You Deserve:

      • dance or sing to music you enjoy
      • volunteer for a cause you believe in
      • connect with a pet
      • savor the moment you’re in
      • say “yes” to yourself
      • create something
      • reduce stress and relax by coloring the creative activities in Color Your Life Happy Coloring Book for Adults  Create Space Cover

 

 

 

 

For more detailed guidance on handling change and adversity,  harmonizing family and work, and creating the life you want and deserve, go to Amazon and get the paperback or ebook at http://amzn.to/2aAZH8D

How to Promote the Happiness Habit

In 2015 I rolled out the awesome Color Your Life Happy custom t-shirt.  If you missed the launch, no worries.You can still order the beautiful t-shirt at http://teespring.com/color-your-life-happy-t-shirt 


It’s available in sizes small through 5XL and three
other colors: gold, lime and white.

What a great way to support the right to happiness
we all deserve.

This is a Limited Edition custom shirt. The original campaign has ended, but you can still get one. Just go to http://teespring.com/color-your-life-happy-t-shirt and click I still want one!

The suggested retail price is $29.99, but I’ve discounted it when you buy it now at http://teespring.com/color-your-life-happy-t-shirt

Consider buying an extra one for a gift and be sure to tell your friends, family and colleagues on social media to join us. Again, the link is http://teespring.com/color-your-life-happy-t-shirt

 

Adults Use Coloring Books to Relieve Stress

Coloring books, once a favorite pastime for children, captivated adults around the world as a way to relieve stress. Regardless of what you feel about this phenomenon, coloring books for adults  pushed their way to bestseller status soaring to 12 million being sold in 2015.

Although sales for coloring books for adults have slowed, publishers at the Toy Fair expressed belief there is still a market for them. Adults looking for stress relief still find coloring an affordable and easily-accessible way to quiet the mind. 

Not to be left out of the trend, I published Color Your Life Happy Coloring Book for Adults and enjoyed a book signing at my local Starbucks.

Coloring books for adults are not new.

In the early 20th century, noted psychologist Carl G. Jüng had his patients color mandalas, geometric designs that have their origin in India.

Then there were the political coloring books of the 1960’s that made fun of an array of social concerns such as  J.F.Kennedy, the red scare, mental illness and  communists.

“Dover Publications, founded in 1941 publishing reissues, created their first coloring book for adults , Antique Automobiles Antique Automobiles Coloring Book, in 1970,”said Vice President of Marketing, Kristine Anderson in a phone conversation.

Where did the recent adult coloring book craze begin?

In 2013, UK-based Scottish artist and illustrator Johanna Basford convinced her editor there was a market for coloring book for adults, so they allowed to create one. Secret Garden: An Inky Treasure Hunt and Coloring Book was her first and sold over a million copies.

Following her success, adult coloring book sales from many publishers exploded at online retailers, as well as brick and mortar hobby, art supply, fabric and discount stores.   Coloring books for adults were popping up everywhere. The Lonely Planet coloring book showed up at  my local Automobile Club, and major merchants had not only coloring books, but planners, notecards, apparel and more. Popular series such as Outlander, Dr. Who, Game of Thrones, and Harry Potter were soon publishing their own themed coloring books. Even serious artworks like Thomas Kinkade produced coloring books inviting us to try our version of these popular art pieces.

What helped the adult coloring book sales skyrocket?

Noticing a growing interest in coloring books,  Dover created a new line, Creative Haven, in 2012. This  series has over 100 titles with themes ranging from mandalas to fashion. In 2015 Dover declared August 2nd  National Coloring Book Day and encouraged colorists to host coloring parties. One of those coloring book party hosts was Chicago resident Mary-Winters-Myers.

Seeing the growing interest among other colorists, Mary started a public Facebook group in January 2015 and published her own coloring book, Dragons, Knots, Bots and More!, in April 2015.

By April the membership of her Facebook group had grown to 300.  She was interviewed for an NBC nightly News story on coloring, and even though her segment didn’t get aired, 175 people a day began flocking to her Facebook group quickly taking her membership to 17,000. At last count her group has 44,345 members.

Social media sites like Facebook and Pinterest helped to fuel the flames of the coloring book trend. As groups of adults gather in local neighborhood coffee shops, libraries, parks and any venue with space for tables and chairs, colorists are gathering and later framing and displaying their work.

Is coloring beneficial for adults?

Coloring relieves stress and lessens anxiety.

Lucy Fyles, former UK psychiatric inpatient nursing assistant, for example, was seeking comfort for her own severe anxiety disorder. She discovered that focusing on creative activities calmed and relieved her anxiety.  While working with psychiatric patients, she saw that they enjoyed using coloring books.  Now housebound, she reviews adult coloring books from her blog 

As the trend continued, filling in pretty designs with owls, cats, and mandalas just doesn’t do it for everybody. That’s why coloring books with swear words shot to the top of the online coloring book sales.

Coloring promotes co-creation with the artist.

Canadian artist Steve McDonald  talked about moving from fabulous cityscapes in art galleries to coloring books.  It was the urging of his children that caused him to embrace creating coloring books as a way to get colorists to become co-creators. Instead of creating just one piece of art to hang in a gallery, he is reaching people around the world.

Coloring promotes wellness by helping people loosen up.

Colorado resident Tammi Hoerner earned a degree in graphic design but started a career as a wellness coach instead. After writing her print book Lessons for Mom Positive Living – Attainable Wellness for Modern Moms she searched for tools to help her clients laugh, play and have fun.  The result are two complementary coloring books.

Is coloring harmful for adults?

Coloring masquerades as psychotherapy or art therapy.

Everyone is not convinced of the healing benefits of adult coloring. In a  Psychology Today article,  Cathy Malchiodi, art therapist and psychotherapist,  said, “While I have no doubt that many colorists “feel better” after a session with a coloring book and even a group coloring fest, it is not art therapy by any definition.”

Coloring distracts us from facing the real world problems.

Susan Jacoby, author of The Age of American Unreason,” looks to the bible line, ‘When I was a child, I thought as a child, but as an adult, I put away childish things,’  to support her belief that coloring books promote escapism and keep us from facing the world around us.

Coloring mandalas unknowingly opens the doors to demons.

While some religious groups embraced the coloring book trend and published their own versions, others warned us against them, especially mandalas which they believe opens the doors to demons.

Coloring patterns and designs created by others is not true art.

Even though coloring book creators promise you don’t have to stay within the lines, purists believe that true art is created on a blank sheet or canvas using the imagination of the artist and his favorite tools.

Where are we now with coloring for adults?

There are still 32 groups listed on meetup.com for coloring for adults in my county.
There are 90+ Facebook groups under coloring books for adults.
There are loads of coloring pages on Pinterest and Etsy.
Some libraries still have weekly coloring clubs.


Now it’s your turn to confess where you stand on the coloring book trend. Did you miss the start of the party? Do you see benefits or harm to coloring for adults? Enter your comments in Speak Your Mind below.

What does your Christmas tree say about you?

Christmas tree decorating

Our first Christmas tree–1969

It wasn’t until I read a post by another blogger about her less-than-perfect Christmas tree, that I began to reflect on my own tree story.

My mother and father always put up our tree on Christmas Eve while my two sisters and I were asleep. You see the first room of our house was my mother’s beauty shop until she finished her last customer on Christmas Eve. When we awoke on Christmas morning the tree would be up, decorated and have presents all around it. My parents must have been up all night creating this transformation and assembling toys. Even though we were asleep just on the other side of a makeshift wall my father had built to turn one big room into two, we slept very soundly in our eagerness to make Christmas arrive as quickly as possible.

As I grew up I admired the Christmas trees in movies and Macy’s window and longed to have my own Christmas tree that would be up for many weeks for me to enjoy leading up to Christmas Day. It would be a real tree, like the one I had as a child, but it would be taller and lavishly decorated like the ones in the department stores.

In the early days of my marriage our tree was indeed a real tree. I insisted on it. It was about 6-7 ft. tall, but the decorating was not very inspired. I draped the typical tinsel and hung the ornaments, but was never thrilled with the results. As I began to have children, getting the toys, books and cookies baked became more important than the tree. We always had the real tree, but while it was decorated to the kids’ satisfaction, I always longed for more.

My husband was content with our tree because he preferred simplicity and often viewed me as being too flamboyant. (Can you be “too” flamboyant? Isn’t flamboyant enough said?)

After I became a widow and moved to a new house, I began to grow disenchanted with a real tree. After a few weeks of burning lights in it and the drying effects of the fireplace, I began to worry disproportionately about the potential for fire. A three-week-old real Christmas tree loses its vibrant green color, gets brittly and begins to droop.  Besides, my older two children were off on their own, and the remaining younger two were even less interested in decorating the tree than they were before. Decorating the tree became my holiday focus and project.

Although I wanted the fragrance of a real tree, I eventually succumbed to investing in an artificial tree, a 9 ft. tall one, eventually the prelit one. To maintain the illusion of the real tree I put potted rosemary around the tree. In recent years I’ve switched back and forth between the real tree and the artificial one.

After giving thought to my over forty years of Christmas tree decorating, I’ve discovered a few things my Christmas tree says about me.

1. I can be just as shallow as the next person, choosing appearance over authenticity.

Even though I love the fragrance of a real tree, I have fluctuated between having an artificial, perfectly-shaped tree that I could control and a real tree. I could decorate the artifical tree heavily without branches breaking and could enjoy for the whole month of December without worry about a fire. I took pride in decorating so well that without very close inspection, visitors couldn’t tell if it was real or not. Family and friends never know which type I will decide to use.

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My 2009 tree. Is it real or artificial?

2. I’m influenced by beauty wherever I find it thus creating an eclectic theme.

To get ideas on decorating my tree I observed Christmas trees in stores and offices wherever I go, as well as combed the Internet. One year while spending Thanksgiving in Hawaii I spotted a Christmas tree configuration that was about 12 feet of poinsettia. Every year since then I’ve included poinsettia as part of my decorations.

Another year I didn’t want to display my Christmas cards on the wall as I once had, so I stuck them in the tree. Beautiful!

Even when I use a prelit artificial tree with white lights, still I add a few more strings of multicolored blinking lights. I like fullness (are you starting to think I’m flamboyant too?)

My ornament collection is extensive and yet I like to add something new from the after-Christmas sales or unique items I find on vacation. Some of my favorite finds are a Cloissone Christmas boot ornament from my visit to a factory in China, some elongated stylized angels from Pier Imports an after Christmas sale, two USC Santa hat ornament gifts from my son, and a Peet’s coffee mug ornament from my walking buddy. (I told you I was eclectic.)

3. Tradition and nostalgia are very important to me, but I am practical too.

Although I admire the themed trees I see in craft stores and other places every season, I prefer to display the multitude of ornaments my children and grandchildren made over the years as well as the many ornaments my coworkers gave me as gifts during twenty years at my last teaching position. Since this wide assortment of keepsake ornaments are many colors, I stick mainly to red and gold ribbon and other enhancements.

One year I tried weaving a candy-cane-striped ribbon throughout the tree, but it seemed to disrupt the look, so I removed it and used a wide gold netting instead. Exquisite!

I could never see the sense of using those Christmas tree skirts they sell in the stores. They were too small and since the gifts were going to cover them, why invest in them in something where you wouldn’t see the design. Instead, I put a large red tablecloth around the base of the tree. It did the trick and are very affordable from discount stores.

Sitting on the floor in front center of the tree is our very first nativity set. It’s 40 years old and missing the nativitywise men. One by one, over the years, the wise men lost their heads,  got cracked on the sides, and eventually disappeared altogether.

It’s absolutely amazing that Mary, Joseph and Jesus survived the rough handling of my children, nieces, nephews and grandchildren over the years. That proves that they are indeed Holy.

Even the shepherd boy, a lamb a donkey and oxen are intact. No matter what my Christmas tree says about me, the important thing is that I’m now thrilled with it each year. It always recalls many happy memories of the past, embraces the joy of the present and brings hope for the future as well.

 

Christmas tree decorating

This is my 2015 tree.

What does your Christmas tree reveal about you?

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Holiday Memories Can Boost Happiness Year-Round [Excerpt from Color Your Life Happy]

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Adrienne took her beloved doll everywhere. Shown here during a visit to her grandma.

 

When we think back to holiday memories, even ones that were frustrating at the time, we can boost our happiness year-round. Our memories soften and sweeten over the years and sometimes become precious keepsakes long after the material things have faded or disappeared.

In my book,  Color Your Life Happy: Create Your Unique Path and Claim the Joy You Deserve,” (now available on Amazon)  at the end of each chapter I share what I call happiness flashbacks.  Here is one of them.

HAPPINESS FLASHBACK: Christmas Gifts

I bought Christmas gifts and toys for my children all year round when things were on sale and available. Then I hid their toys in various places all over the house. One Christmas morning after the kids had opened their toys and were happily playing with them, I remembered I had neglected to put one toy under the tree.

Oh, no!

The Cabbage Patch doll my youngest wanted so much was still in the far back of my closet. How was I going to handle this and maintain the Santa Claus myth?

While the kids were busy playing away from the tree, I quickly retrieved the Cabbage Patch doll from her hiding place and put her under the tree, then placed other boxes and packaging around her.

Then I called out to my youngest. “Did you get everything from under the tree?”

“Yes.”

“There still seems to be something under the tree—over there in the back.”

“No,” she said impatiently. “I got everything,”

“Come and take another look.”

“Okay.” She was clearly annoyed. She walked toward the tree and reached underneath, pushing aside the camouflage.

“How did this get here?” she cried out as she picked up the Cabbage Patch doll.

“I guess you just didn’t see it,” I replied, trying to look innocent.

She was so happy to get her doll that she didn’t care.

Can you think of a holiday memory from years past that makes you smile or laugh? Share it in the Comments.

Color Your Life Happy, 2nd Edition, now available on Amazon

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Enjoy the print or Kindle version where I  share how I and others make choices in keeping with their higher purpose and draw lessons and strength from sadness, grief, and adversity that create a unique life path. Weaving together findings from the field of positive psychology, ancient wisdom, self-help advice, personal experiences, and spiritual enlightenment, I offer practical and inspirational insight, strategies, and principles we can apply to embracing happiness and claiming the joy we deserve. Get your copy at http://tinyurl.com/florabfyn

 

Treat Your Body Like a Temple for Increased Happiness

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Treat your body like a temple, not a dumpster, and you can increase your happiness.

Scientists have discovered that about half of our happiness is based on factors we can’t control, like genetics and our upbringing. About 8 percent is attributed to circumstances in our lives, our educational level, marital status, and income. The remaining 40 percent is a reflection of our attitude and choices we make, especially the choices we make regarding our bodies.

Under normal circumstances, our bodies house all we need to function as human beings. We were designed to experience happiness. From our brain to every organ and system, we were created to be optimum living machines. We even have the drugs we need already inside of us, and our brain is the chemist ready to fill prescriptions as needed.

Access the natural drugs in your body

So many people spend their health gaining wealth, and then have to spend their wealth to regain their health.
—A. J. Reb Materi

Endorphins, which are three times more powerful at killing pain than morphine, are produced naturally by exercise, listening to soothing music, laughing, crying, and spending time in the sun.

Serotonin helps us have that happy feeling and controls our moods, aiding sleep and preventing depression. Bright light and exercise will increase our levels of serotonin.

Dopamine makes us energetic and alert and improves our decision-making and socializing skills. Eating bananas, foods with antioxidants, almonds, and sunflower seeds are all believed to produce dopamine naturally.

Would you fuel your car with soft drinks and expect it to run? I don’t think so. That’s because you know your car was designed to run on gasoline (for now). Putting anything else in your car will not propel it forward and will likely ruin it.

Even though we have lots of information available about what is good for our bodies, many of us continue to shovel junk in there. Especially when we’re young, we take our bodies for granted and tax them to their limits. Consuming unhealthy foods, neglecting exercise, shortchanging our sleep, and failing to drink enough water not only cause us to be overweight and lethargic, but also make us susceptible to illness and diminish our happiness.

Access nutrients from food

Because my sister Sonja died of multiple sclerosis in 2005, I always pause when I hear anything about this progressive and often fatal disease. One day I passed through the dining room as my youngest daughter was watching a video on her computer about multiple sclerosis. I stopped to listen to Dr. Wahls  as she described how she had transformed her health and body after suffering for four years with secondary, progressive multiple sclerosis. When she was confined to a tilt-recline wheelchair, it became very hard for her to make her hospital rounds. Conventional medicine wasn’t working. She was afraid she would be bedridden for the rest of her life. That’s when Dr. Wahls began to study the research in auto-immune disease and brain biology. From what she learned, she decided to get her nutrients and vitamins from food rather than pills and supplements.

Using her Mitochondria Diet, Dr. Wahls recovered her ability to walk easily without a cane and ride her bicycle. Now she is devoting her life to lecturing and research. When she shared her story at a November 2011 TEDx talk, it went viral. Although she is careful to point out that her work has not been evaluated by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration and she does not promise to treat, prevent, or cure disease, she now uses these diets and protocols in her primary care and traumatic brain injury clinics.

Adopt healthy habits to increase your happiness

You may not be ready to adopt Dr. Wahls’ Mitochondria Diet, or any other organized eating plan, but your body will function better and help you maintain happiness when you do the following:

• Cook and consume a diet of fresh fruits and vegetables. Increasing concern for healthier eating and green living has resulted in better choices in major grocery stores and healthier choices in medium-sized stores.

• Gain access to better-quality food. At one time, it was difficult for low-income or more remote communities to have access to high-quality foods because of the absence or scarcity of grocery stores [and ample fast food drive-throughs.] But more and more communities of both high and low income levels are solving this problem by setting up community gardens, engaging in community-supported agriculture, and attracting farmer’s markets.

• Make water your beverage of choice and consume at least eight glasses each day. While there is disagreement over whether purified or filtered water is better than tap water, just choose your favorite and drink it regularly. It has become customary throughout the U.S.A. for commuters to carry a bottle of water with them.

• Exercise at least three times a week. Every day would be better. Walking is the easiest and least expensive exercise. Getting a walking buddy makes walking more fun.  and keeps me consistent.

• Breathe deeply and consciously, sending oxygen throughout your body. Deep breathing helps your body get rid of toxins and helps reduce stress.

• Avoid sugar, caffeine, and alcohol. Not only do these provide no nutrition, but all are addictive and can impair our motor and other skills. Because I’ve been a lifelong coffee drinker, I was surprised recently to discover that I’m not enjoying coffee as much as I once did. I think exercise and healthier eating are making coffee less welcome in my body and less satisfying to my taste buds. (I’m still working on this area however.)

• Start your day with a healthy breakfast. Not only is it the fuel that gets you going, but it also gives you energy, enables you to think better, and prevents you from binging, when you’ll eat anything to satisfy that late morning/early afternoon hunger.

• Avoid eating after 7 p.m. This one is a challenge for me because I admit I love to snack in the evening.

You certainly wouldn’t trash a place you hold dear or for which you have reverence. You have been entrusted with the precious gift of a body. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to taking care of it. Invest time to research what combination of food, living habits, and exercise works best for you.

We spend a lot of time talking about attitudes, but without taking care of our bodies, we’re missing a critical component. Take loving care of your body, and it will take care of you, resulting in the greatest benefit of all—happiness.

Like you, I’m still working on adopting healthy habits. Which habits are your greatest challenge? What can you add to the healthy habits list?

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This is an excerpt from Chapter 4, Making Happiness a Way of Life  in Color Your Life Happy: Create Your Unique Path and Claim the Joy You Deserve, 2nd edition. Visit https://coloryourlifehappy.com to to learn more about the book before it is released on Amazon and other major booksellers. [/feature_box]