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Surprising Benefits of Setbacks

Imagine beams of sunshine pouring through your bedroom window awakening you. You unfold your arms into a satisfying stretch and throw back the sheets. You spring to your feet looking forward to a wonderful day.

You haven’t opened your mail yet, so you don’t know that you didn’t get the job whose interview you thought you’d aced. Instead of deciding what to wear on your first day, you’re going to spend the day job hunting again. Worse of all, once again you’ve got to figure out how to stretch the few dollars left in your bank account.

Every adversity, every faliure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.
~Napoleon Hill

No matter how hard we plan or try to avoid it, we all encounter adversity, failure, and setbacks. These occurrences are inevitable. Our challenge is handling them well until we manifest the good outcome we want.

This is easier said than done because as humans we love to look in all the wrong places for solutions.

Is Your Solution a Mask or Cure?

When we get a headache we search for an aspirin. When we spot a pimple we want to apply an ointment. And when someone rejects us we want to lash out at them or spend time hating them or getting even.

When we try to solve what we see as problems with external solutions we engage in futility.

Think about the common cold, for example. We’ve heard many times that there is no cure and yet we spend millions on cold cures. Along with prescribing a cure the doctor advises drink liquids and get plenty rest.

When the cold runs its course it goes away. All the cure activities we engaged in for several days just kept us busy masking the symptoms, but didn’t cure the cold. It was a matter of time.

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Is This a Major Setback or Divine Setup?

When we aren’t selected in a job interview we may decide it’s a setback, when in fact it may be a divine setup for a better job.

When we miss a plane, we may decide it’s a setback causing us to delay a vacation or be late for a meeting. In fact, it may be a divine setup sparing our lives from a plane crash or making us available for a more positive event.

The next time something happens that you would normally see as a setback, pause to look at it another way.

Chances are it’s not the end of the world. Consider that a Higher Power is at work putting you in a situation that will lead to a better direction than you expected.

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Feeling Stuck Right Now?

Self-confidence and high self-esteem help us go after our dreams and reach our goals. Unfortunately, some things we experience in life weaken our self-confidence and cause us to feel stuck and defeated. Discover ways to manage your fears and take self-improvement steps in my ebook Getting Unstuck: How to Get Your Confidence Back and Follow Your Dream. It will help you regain self-confidence, get unstuck and feel motivated to resume the activities that will bring you success.  Download your copy in minutes. If you don’t own a Kindle device, no problem.Get the free Kindle app for your tablet, computer or smartphone at

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Get Unstuck


No matter how confident or successful you may feel, things will happen in your life that weaken your self-confidence.

  • Perhaps you just got laid off
  • You lost sight of your goal
  • You’re overwhelmed with choices
  • You don’t seem to have any desirable choices left
  • A friend or partner let you down

Knowing what to do at these times can get you unstuck, back on track, and moving toward your goals again.

That’s why I wrote Getting Unstuck: How to Get Your Confidence Back and Follow Your Dream

Using my experience and that of others, I share what has worked for us in an easy-to-read Kindle
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Celebrate ‘Happiness Happens’ Month with a Smile, a Wave, a Good Deed and More

Happiness Happens Month

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August is Happiness Happens Month, started by the Secret Society of Happy People in 1999. The group is no longer a secret since they boast over 46,000 “Likes” on Facebook. You can learn more about them and their creative activities on their website,

The Society has three purposes for this month:

  • Recognize and express happiness
  • Listen to others talk about their happiness
  • Don’t rain on other people’s parades

These sound like some good ideas for any time of the year, but it won’t hurt to be extra mindful of creating your happiness this month.

Pamela Gail Johnson, founder of this day,  has come up with many creative ideas. Why not join her and the rest of us in the Happiness Happens 31 Day Challenge?
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Some other ways you can celebrate

  • don a pair of silver shades (because happy people always see the silver lining)
  • laugh (laughter is still the best medicine)
  • smile (and the world smiles with you)
  • post on Twitter about what makes you happy, using the hashtag #HappinessHappens

What are some other ways you will celebrate this month?

  • Join me on August 9th in celebrating Color Your Life Happy Day, inspired by the memory of my mom, Mildred Morris
  • Make visiting my home page part of your celebrations at and sign up to get updates on the 2nd edition of my book, Color Your Life Happy: Create the Success, Abundance and Inner Joy You Deserve