Practical Happiness Tips: Researchers Prove Grandma Right About Naps

It amazing how things our Grandma told us about quality of life and happiness are now being discovered by researchers.

Grandma knew, for example, that taking a nap was beneficial. Part of grandma’s motivation, of course, was that putting the kids down for a nap gave the adults a break.

But she also knew it was good for us.

In a recent study at UC Berkeley a sleep study was conducted with 39 adults. The subjects were divided into two groups and given a rigorous learning task. The intent of the learning process was to tax the hippocampus, the area of our brain that stores fact-based memories before they move to long-term memory. Both groups performed equally well.

But later that afternoon one group was allowed to take a 90-minute nap while the other was not. The nap group was better able to learn new material better than those who did not take a nap.

Researchers concluded that sleep clears our short-term memory, making room for new knowledge.

In other words, working nonstop, cramming for exams and depriving yourself of sleep diminishes your mental alertness and effectiveness. We also know that this affects our happiness as well.

Duh! Grandma already knew this.

Next this team will study whether the reduced sleep we experience as we get older is related to a reduced capacity to learn as we age. Since I just celebrated a birthday, I’m interested in what this one will find.

Of course I could just save time and ask a Grandma.

3 Happiness Myths Debunked

42-15689883The desire for happiness is as old as mankind, and the myths surrounding it are alive and well.

1. Happiness depends on your circumstances.

If this were true, then folks born into dire poverty or who undergo traumatic situations would be unhappy while the fortunates who are born into opulence and live even, pleasant lives would be happy.

You immediately recognize that this is not the case.

The news confirms this each time we hear a report of a wealthy kid overdosing on drugs or a parapalegic who reaches an amazing athletic achievement.

We all are born into circumstances over which we have no control. As we grow up, we will encounter adversity and sometimes tragedy.It is how we respond to those circumstances that determines our success, achievement and happiness.

Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.Napoleon Hill


2. Money won’t make you happy.

This myth may make you feel better when you are facing economic challenges, but the truth is a certain amount of money does indeed contribute to your happiness.

While we can often live on less money than we think, there is nothing noble about being impoverished and not being able to provide adequately for your family. Once our basic needs are met, however, accumulating more money and possessions may give brief exhiliration, but won’t add to our happiness.

How you spend your money is more important than how much you have. When you spend money on creating memorable experience, such as taking your family on an awesome vacation, is more fulfilling than spending it on another TV set whose newness and appeal will soon wear off.

Most important of all is to avoid tying your own personal value to the amount of money you have.

3. Being around happy people will make you happy.

Happiness is an inside job. It’s the peace you make within yourself and the habits you put in place that matter.

When you associate with positive people, it certainly reinforces the positive thinking you have within. But if you’re holding onto negative thoughts and neglecting to take steps to build your self-esteem, being around happy people won’t work magic.

What other happiness myths are you holding onto?

Want to Be Happier? Get with the New Program

Hotel cash ATM machine by cupcake fan on FlickrWhen I was preparing to travel to China the teller at my credit union advised me that merchants around the world preferred their own currency to traveler’s checks.

So, armed only with my debit card and credit cards, I went on my trip. Just as the teller suggested, I got cash from the hotel’s ATM machine and was well prepared for day trips and shopping.

One traveler who was part of our tour group, however, had insisted on buying traditional traveler’s checks because that’s what she had always done.

This disappointed traveler was almost in tears when the hotel front desk manager told her that they wouldn’t accept her traveler’s check. Even though she signed it in front of them the manager insisted that the signatures looked different.

You will be happier on the day that you accept the old way has been replaced with a more efficient and safer version.

Let me give you another example.

Many years ago when newspaper presses were computerized, some employees unwilling to learn to operate the new presses found themselves without jobs. If you’re on any job these days computer use is no longer optional, it’s part of the requisite skills.

Likewise, many people who are seeking temporary employment until they find the jobs they want are discovering that they need to upgrade their computer skills in order to compete. It doesn’t matter whether we think this is fair or not, it just is.

There are likely things that are still equally as good done as they were long ago, but if you’re stuck on doing things the old way you will find many great experiences and opportunities passing you by. In some situations you will just be shut out all together.

Tool for Happiness: Give Up the Quest

Professor Srikumar Rao, creator of popular graduate course Creativity and Personal Mastery, says that anything you think you can get to make you happy is something you also can “unget.” His view is that happiness is hard-wired into us and therefore there is nothing we need to get, do or be to be happy.

Listen to what he has to say. Then share your reactions.

How to Cultivate Happiness: Savor Life Like a Child

cookiegirlI was working on my laptop at Borders Bookstore recently when a father came in with his daughter, who looked to be about 10 years old, and the son, about 6. They sat down at the table next to me and pulled out their homework.

Before they started their homework, the dad asked if they wanted anything to eat or drink. What a question to ask kids!

The daughter wanted one of those large oatmeal cookies with cranberries. Her dad went over to the counter, bought the cookies and placed it in front of her.

I tried to maintain focus on my work. I always buy a cup of coffee to sip while I work, but fight off the urge to buy the sweets. My resolve was weakening.

Little Miss Cookie Eater broke off a piece of cookie and studied it before she lifted it to her mouth. A little nibble, a little nibble, and then pop! the whole piece went in her mouth. She chewed it slowly savoring every cranberry and crumb.

Why couldn’t she just devour that whole cookie so I could get back to my work?

She took so long eating that cookie because she was clearly prolonging it and getting delight from every bite.

You can guess the end of the story.

After the kids finished reviewing their spelling words, they left with their dad, but visions, smells and crunching memories lingered. When I couldn’t stand it any more I rushed over to the counter and ordered my own cookie.

“An oatmeal cookie with cranberries. Heated please.” I said to the clerk.

When I returned to my seat with my wonderful purchase, I thought about how much children enjoy food and activities they love. They use every sense to experience what they eat and what they do.

So take a lesson from children. Next time, don’t just chomp into that shiny red apple or the tight crisp green one, for example.

Study it first. Turn it over and look at the many shades of color on it. Run your hand over the smooth finish. After you have become acquainted with the apple, bite into it slowly. Listen to the sound it makes when your teeth puncture the skin and pull off your first bite. Feel the splash and trickle of juice.

Slowing down to engage all your senses, to capture the joy and full pleasure from your experiences, cultivates happiness in your life.