Don't Be a Happy Fool
Advice on starting new habits and reaching for new goals give steps on how best to proceed. Advice on becoming a runner, for example will stress what to do before you begin, how to begin and getting proper form. Weight-loss advice always starts with urging you to consult your doctor. Failure to follow the startup advice in any new endeavor would be foolish since it could lead to not only injury, but failure and disappointment.
If you’ve decided that you want to experience happiness, there are some steps you should take to avoid injury and ensure success.
Consult your higher source.
Just as health practitioners always suggest that you speak to an authority before starting any diet or exercise program, so should you consult your Higher Power before attempting to make changes to your life.
You may call your higher source by another name, but it is whatever force you consider greater than you are. Many people get in touch with this source through prayer or meditation. Tapping into this power for strength and guidance will put you in touch with the inner voice that will guide you. Some call this voice intuition, but what you call it is not as important as recognizing and using its power.
Since your life is an expression of this power within, you must become aware of it, set your intentions with it and align your action toward your goals with it. Otherwise, your outward efforts will conflict with your inner beliefs, and that will prevent you from experiencing the inner happiness you desire.
Connect with people who are where you want to be
Trying to go it alone is unnecessary and foolish. There is a place for solitude, but when seeking to make happiness your way of life, find and associate with other happy, contented, positive people engaged in activities they enjoy.
Members of a gym are motivated by exercising with others working toward similar goals. So will you find it easier to stay positive, set goals and make daily progress if you surround yourself with others with the same intent.
Get real.
Being happy does not mean you are immune from feeling sad or encountering pain and adversity. You certainly won’t spend all your days skipping through the meadow singing “Tiptoe Through the Tulips.”
Being happy does not mean being a pushover for manipulative and toxic people and schemes. As a matter of fact, clear those negative people out of your life and refuse to be pawn for those who want to use you.
Happy people go after what they enjoy in their lives, but also are confident that they can handle the change and adversity that we all inevitably encounter. Happy people feel sadness and grief very deeply because they give themselves permission to feel. But they don’t dwell or remain in these states.
No matter what actions you take or people you gather around you, you won’t be any happier than you believe you can be and decide to be. Abraham Lincoln had it right “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Give Me Some Seamless Days
My friend, Linda, says that I invented the term, “seamless days.” I’m not sure about that but I do know that somewhere along the way I discovered that I needed them in order to get big projects done.
A lot of people praise multitasking, while some time management practitioners say it’s not humanly possible to do more than one thing at a time. Regardless of who is right, I seem to get major projects done best when I can work continuously without outside interruptions and the tyranny of the clock. I call these my seamless days, and they are the times when I believe I can accomplish my best writing, thinking, and planning.
Seamless days are a series of two to three days when I don’t have appointments and can stay home working on important projects. I don’t work nonstop, of course. My seamless days are punctuated with snack breaks, sometimes even a short walk out of doors. What is most distinctive about them, however, is that I don’t have outside appointments, guests or disruptive thoughts. I screen my phone calls and don’t turn on the TV. Without the distraction of the media, telephone and other time thieves, I can get absorbed so deeply in a project that hours literally go by before I realize. The result is that I get big chunks of work done.
Occasionally during a break from work during my seamless days I’ll daydream. I’ll just lean back in my easy chair and begin to think about whatever. Scenes from my childhood or episodes of raising my children flash by. Sometimes I recall how a specific moment felt, like waking up to the sunrise over Puget Sound in Bainbridge Island where the large bedroom windows gave me a full view.
Other times I imagine what it’ll be like to hold my next grandchild, whenever one of my children decides to take this step. Once in a while I’ll get spot a bird perched on a tree branch outside my window or a lizard doing pushups on my patio.
When I was still teaching full time, running a side business and managing my family I would long for seamless days. When the need became urgent, I would pull out my month at a glance calendar, check for three consecutive days without appointments and make a plan to stay put for that time frame. Sometimes I would have to reschedule an appointment to make this happen, so I would.
I urge you to occasionally make space in your life for some seamless days. You can use them for major projects or to get away from your normal activities.
You’ll return to your routine rejuvenated, able to stave off stress and more likely to keep a positive mood.
Open your calendar now and schedule your seamless days. You’ll be glad you did.
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