Confessions of a Reformed Gadget Snob

CB019022Last weekend as I was reading through my email and messages on LinkedIn, Twitter, etc. I ran across this article about gadgets that defined the decade http://tinyurl.com/gadgets2009

It brought back memories of my early adulthood decades ago when I was a gadget snob. My sisters were fascinated by every new tool and development that came along, but not me.  I not only turned up my nose at many modern devices, but put down my sisters and everyone else who had to have these items as soon as they were available to consumers.

This was in the 60’s when modern technology meant advances like  the personal answer machine. I still remember my reaction the first time I called a friend and was greeted by one of those new gadgets to his telephone.

“Hello, this is Jim. We are unable to come to the phone at the moment, but if you’ll leave your number, we’ll get back to you.”

Gasp!  Judgments raced through my head “How rude, impersonal and cold! Does he really think that I’m going to talk into a machine? Forget him!”

It sounds hilarious now, but for whatever reason I was appalled that a friend would expect a friend to connect in such a way. I try to remember this when I hear people react negatively to social media.

Because I was slow to get on board advances and gadgets, I was the last one among my sisters to get an answer machine, microwave, cell phone and cable TV.  I was afraid to use my first debit (then called ATM) card.

When we remodeled our kitchen in 1981 I bought the stove with the microwave at the top. My husband protested saying that we were all going to be radiated and die. A few weeks after it was installed,  I caught him heating his food in it more than any of us.

But things have changed. Now I’m among the early majority, the 34% that adopts technology after the early adopters have used it and taken out some of the uncertainty.

I’ve clearly switched camps. Now I’m  appalled that everyone on the planet doesn’t have a cellphone (doesn’t have to be Blackberry,) a laptop, attend Tweetups and use a GPS.  While technology changes so fast that these are not at the very top of the latest advances, they are new to the late majority and the laggards.

Interestingly enough, my sisters fell behind and are in the laggards group.

It makes sense, of course, that new advances costs money. To keep up with the upgrades and newcomers to the marketplace requires a substantial investment of money and then time.

It also makes sense that people most likely to jump on board the technology advances are the ones most likely to benefit from the speed, connections and social networking. It’s no surprise, then, that business owners, entrepreneurs, students and developers of all the advances the accompanying accessories and applications would be the most active.

I can’t imagine leaving town or my house for a whole day without taking my laptop and definitely my Blackberry along. Although I don’t have every tweet sent to my phone and I do turn my phone off when I’m in a meeting, church or social gathering, I won’t leave home without it.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? What gadget or modern technology did you resist or disdain at first, but now find you can’t live without?

Come on. It’s true confessions time.

Don't Be a Happy Fool

injuredmanAdvice on starting new habits and reaching for new goals give steps on how best to proceed. Advice on becoming a runner, for example will stress what to do before you begin, how to begin and getting proper form. Weight-loss advice always starts with urging you to consult your doctor. Failure to follow the startup advice in any new endeavor would be foolish since it could lead to not only injury, but failure and disappointment.

If you’ve decided that you want to experience happiness, there are some steps you should take to avoid injury and ensure success.

Consult your higher source.

Just as health practitioners always suggest that you speak to an authority before starting any diet or exercise program, so should you consult your Higher Power before attempting to make changes to your life.

You may call your higher source by another name, but it is whatever force you consider greater than you are. Many people get in touch with this source through prayer or meditation. Tapping into this power for strength and guidance will put you in touch with the inner voice that will guide you. Some call this voice intuition, but what you call it is not as important as recognizing and using its power.

Since your life is an expression of this power within, you must become aware of it, set your intentions with it and align your action toward your goals with it. Otherwise, your outward efforts will conflict with your inner beliefs, and that will prevent you from experiencing the inner happiness you desire.

Connect with people who are where you want to be

Trying to go it alone is unnecessary and foolish. There is a place for solitude, but when seeking to make happiness your way of life, find and associate with other happy, contented, positive people engaged in activities they enjoy.

Members of a gym are motivated by exercising with others working toward similar goals. So will you find it easier to stay positive, set goals and make daily progress if you surround yourself with others with the same intent.

Get real.

Being happy does not mean you are immune from feeling sad or encountering pain and adversity. You certainly won’t spend all your days skipping through the meadow singing “Tiptoe Through the Tulips.”

Being happy does not mean being a pushover for manipulative and toxic people and schemes. As a matter of fact, clear those negative people out of your life and refuse to be pawn for those who want to use you.

Happy people go after what they enjoy in their lives, but also are confident that they can handle the change and adversity that we all inevitably encounter. Happy people feel sadness and grief very deeply because they give themselves permission to feel. But they don’t dwell or remain in these states.

No matter what actions you take or people you gather around you, you won’t be any happier than you believe you can be and decide to be. Abraham Lincoln had it right “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Somebody Else's Experience is the Best Teacher: Lessons of 2009

p_013Experience is not the best teacher, unless it’s someone else’s. Here are some experiences had by others in 2009 and the lessons I hope you learned from them.

1. If you are a high profile celebrity who is stepping outside your marriage to have affairs with other women, do not leave voice mail messages to one of your lovers. Even if you don’t identify yourself by name, we recognize your voice. And, the temptation of your lover to turn that saved message over to the media for big bucks when she finds out she is just one of many is just too tempting to resist.

2. If you decide to stage a hoax involving your son in a hot air balloon publicity stunt, spend more time rehearsing what your son should say when questioned later by the media. Or decline any interviews (Oh, I forgot. The whole point was to get publicity.) You can’t expect a six year old to grasp the importance of misrepresenting the truth or realize that this “game” is punishable by jail time for his parents.

3. If you’ve just gotten a new high paying job don’t diss your new company on Twitter:

[The company in question] just offered me a job! Now I have to weigh the utility of a fatty paycheck against the daily commute to San Jose and hating the work.

Tweets go out to anyone on Twitter, not just your followers. And, major companies are not only tech-savvy these days, but monitor social media to keep up with what’s being said about their brand.

4. If you are an Arizona video podcaster on vacation with your family, consider telling us about your vacation when you return rather than giving blow by blow details of your travels as you go. Burglars read tweets too, and after reading the following tweet may decide to relieve you of some of your possessions while you are away.

We made it to Kansas City in one piece. We’re visiting [wife’s] family. Can’t wait to get some good video while we’re here.

Modern technology is a wonderful tool, but when you use it to put your foot in mouth the result is swift and unretrievable.

Get With the Program: We are in Permanent Beta

ribbonswirlThings are changing so fast around us that we can no longer wait to find the beaten path or use past techniques as a guide. Whether you are looking for a job, marketing your own business, planning to return to school or longing for a life mate, chances are you can’t rely on doing things the traditional way any more.

The term “beta” refers to the preliminary or testing stage of software or hardware products. Once the glitches were worked out, a more finalized version was put out on the market.

The only problem is that software and hardware continue to have so many problems that companies don’t even expect the first version to be problem-free. They count on you, the user, to test the product and discover the problems.

We are in a state of change where we are testing new ideas and products knowing that adjustments, adaptations and upgrades will be needed. At the heart of all this change is technology.

Resisting the push toward technology is futile. Even the State Board of Equalization finally has set up electronic submissions, not as an option but as mandatory. When the government and educational institutions finally see the benefits and make the move to technology, it’s time for everyone to face that it’s here to stay.

A former colleague who takes pride in being a dinosaur was shocked when her credit union suggested she not buy traveler’s checks but use her debit card to get cash while traveling abroad. She had never accepted a debit card years ago when it was offered to her, so now she had to get up to speed on using a debit card the week before her trip abroad.

The same warning about traveler’s checks not being the ideal anymore was lost on a tourist who was traveling with our tour group to China. As we were leaving the hotel headed out to visit the highlights of Beijing she was waging a verbal war with the hotel front desk clerk and manager who didn’t think her signatures on her traveler’s check matched.

Not only is technology here to stay, but it’s changing daily. Whatever features are in place today will change by next week, so keeping up is essential if you plan to stay in the game.

When I upgraded to a new Blackberry last month, the body of my phone looked pretty much like the old one, but I had to learn new features, download my GPS again, and sadly discovered that my favorite places were no longer set. My new phone has almost as much memory as my computer and can take pictures and videos.

If I want I can access not only my email, but store PowerPoint presentations, work on Word documents and access my Facebook and Twitter accounts from my phone. Anyone who gets comfort from having things in the same place and work the same way are in for a lot of discomfort in this new land where technology leads the way.

Instead of fighting it, why not begin to get acquainted with one or two key tools slowly. The Internet is loaded with tutorials to help you. And don’t think you’re alone.

In spite of the fact that I know a lot about many tech tools and features, I hit learning curves almost every day. Today, for example, when I set up my Facebook fan page (not to be confused with a profile page) I had to search for a while before I discovered why I couldn’t set up a vanity URL yet. The vanity URL is a short one that would read www.facebook.com/coloryourlifehappy instead of the long complicated one they assign you at first http://www.facebook.com/pages/Color-Your-Life-Happy/198393282694?v=app_2347471856#/pages/Color-Your-Life-Happy/198393282694?v=wall . See what I mean?

After two hours of searching, I found the answer. You need to have 25 fans before you are allowed to get the vanity URL for a fan page. So, I sent out invitations to all my Facebook friends and within minutes I had enough fans to get the easier-to-remember URL for my Color Your Life Happy fan page. Yippee! Now I just have to relocate those instructions for setting it up.

I must admit that keeping up with technology is not for the faint of heart. But if keeping an active mind staves off Alzheimer’s, I’m safe.

Part of enjoying your life is embracing change. You certainly don’t have to jump on board every new gadget that comes on the market, but you also can’t expect to remain unaffected by the changes taking place around us.

It was once said that nothing is sure but death and taxes. Add to that change. It’s here to stay.

Give Me Some Seamless Days

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My friend, Linda, says that I invented the term, “seamless days.” I’m not sure about that but I do know that somewhere along the way I discovered that I needed them in order to get big projects done.

A lot of people praise multitasking, while some time management practitioners say it’s not humanly possible to do more than one thing at a time. Regardless of who is right, I seem to get major projects done best when I can work continuously without outside interruptions and the tyranny of the clock. I call these my seamless days, and they are the times when I believe I can accomplish my best writing, thinking, and planning.

Seamless days are a series of two to three days when I don’t have appointments and can stay home working on important projects. I don’t work nonstop, of course. My seamless days are punctuated with snack breaks, sometimes even a short walk out of doors. What is most distinctive about them, however, is that I don’t have outside appointments, guests or disruptive thoughts. I screen my phone calls and don’t turn on the TV. Without the distraction of the media, telephone and other time thieves, I can get absorbed so deeply in a project that hours literally go by before I realize. The result is that I get big chunks of work done.

Occasionally during a break from work during my seamless days I’ll daydream. I’ll just lean back in my easy chair and begin to think about whatever. Scenes from my childhood or episodes of raising my children flash by. Sometimes I recall how a specific moment felt, like waking up to the sunrise over Puget Sound in Bainbridge Island where the large bedroom windows gave me a full view.

Other times I imagine what it’ll be like to hold my next grandchild, whenever one of my children decides to take this step. Once in a while I’ll get spot a bird perched on a tree branch outside my window or a lizard doing pushups on my patio.

When I was still teaching full time, running a side business and managing my family I would long for seamless days. When the need became urgent, I would pull out my month at a glance calendar, check for three consecutive days without appointments and make a plan to stay put for that time frame. Sometimes I would have to reschedule an appointment to make this happen, so I would.

I urge you to occasionally make space in your life for some seamless days. You can use them for major projects or to get away from your normal activities.

You’ll return to your routine rejuvenated, able to stave off stress and more likely to keep a positive mood.

Open your calendar now and schedule your seamless days. You’ll be glad you did.