Archives for January 2011

Is Your Happiness Tied to Your Name?

Copy of 02890012Picking names for my kids was a serious endeavor for me.

I began thinking about this when I was an early teen. By age 13 I had decided what I would name my kids. I came up with three names so I expected to have at least three kids, I suppose.

My first  boy would be named Derek Lee Vard, after the gorgeous movie star John Derek who starred in those epic movies I saw when my father took us to the movies every Saturday evening. Lee Vard is the name of a childhood friend whose name I always admired, for some reason.

The first girl would be named Desiree Yvette. The name Desiree was the title of a Marlon Brando movie made in 1954 about Napoleon. I don’t remember why I chose Yvette for the middle name.

Finally, the second girl would be named Monique Michelle. I don’t remember why I chose either of these. I guess I just liked the way they sounded. I was so pleased with my name choices that I wrote them over and over again in notebooks as if practicing penmanship.

Everyone who knew me  knew my future children’s names. By the time I had children over a decade later, my names were no longer available.

My sisters had “stolen” my names because they had babies first. Yes. My first nephew is named Derek Lee Vard and my first two nieces Desiree Yvette and Monique Michell.

For longer than I care to admit, my jaws were tight about my sisters using the names I had on reserve, but I moved on and began the search for names when I began having children.

(In the photo above is my second daughter, Sonya, with her first child, Jasmine.)

When it comes to names, Hollywood stars often do the opposite. They change the names they were born with typically because the new names have more star quality, are easier to pronounce or catchier.

There’s no question that Lady Gaga is a far cooler name than Stephani Germanotta.

Singer Dionne Warwick, began her career with a last name that was really a printing error on her first label. Her last name, Warrick, was misspelled as Warwick and it became her stage name. Later, on the recommendation of a numerologist, she added an “e” to the end of her last name.

Folks in the corporate, entertainment and political arena take choosing just the right names very seriously. They often hire experts to help them select and modify their names because they strongly believe that they are tied to their success and happiness.

On Monday, January 31, 2011 Kerrie Hopkins, America’s foremost onomatologist, launched her new data-rich profiling website through . From her site Kerrie is able to meet the needs of corporate and entertainment clients. Kerrie’s work is based on research and lead her to author several books, including the internationally acclaimed “Breaking the Name Code – Define your name – Design your life” which is studied at  the university level. Kerrie’s comprehensive name dissection is based on unique spelling, segmental phonemes, syllable structure, word fragments, and distinct characteristics or “markers.”

The study of names shows how you perceive yourself as well as how others perceive you, and examines how people interact with each other based on name characteristics.

How do you feel about the connection between names and status and happiness?  Are you happy with your name? Have you changed your name?  Share with us.

Does Intention-Manifestation Work? The Answer is in the Question

manifestedchair--resizedToday I met with my new fitness coach, Cyndi, and set up an eating plan to detox for 3 weeks that will also include an exercise regimen.

This plan is about much more than my weight, because when you declutter your body, your office or your home, it affects all areas of your life.

Cyndi explained that when I stop putting artificial stimulants in my body, such as caffeine, my natural stimulants will kick in and do what they are there to do: make me feel good and focus better which will improve my behavior which will lead to better handling of challenges and achieving my goals.

She then told me to watch for things that show up in my life now that I’ve turned my attention to decluttering. Some of those things will be things I need to let pass out of my life.

She further explained that I will now focus better and operate at a higher vibration.

When I left her office I stopped by Trader Joe’s to pick up some organic foods and other items on the list of foods and beverages I now will add to my life.

Next I stopped by Staples on to buy a new office chair. The one I have is falling apart, and has been annoying me for months.

Besides, I had Staples rewards coupons totalling $14 and wanted to use them before they expire. The chair I liked was on sale for $99, and with assembly, $7.95 more.

Buying this chair was not in my budget, but I was fed up with the one I had. I began to question whether I should buy this chair or not since I hadn’t made a disposable $99 + 7.95 in my business this week.

One of my New Year’s resolutions was not to spend money I don’t have.

I decided not to buy this chair for now.

In the past I would have bought it anyway with the expectation that I’d make the $, but this time I left the chair, decided to come home, put away the groceries and think about ways to earn the cost of the chair before buying it.

When I turned the corner to my house, I couldn’t believe my eyes!

Sitting in my neighbor’s driveway were not one, not two, but five office chairs with $10 signs on each one.

What’s the likelihood of that?

(Her husband had gotten them when he bought the contents of a storage unit.)

As soon as I pulled in my driveway I dashed next door and started trying out chairs, like Goldilocks.

The perfect one was blue, not the color I wanted, but it was the right height, firmness and had an adjustable back and seat.

And best of all, the price was right! I had $10 in my wallet.


I rolled my selection to my neighbor’s front door and rang the doorbell.

She laughed so hard as she told me the story of how something told her to put those chairs out there. She had just sold the first one before I came by.

As soon as I placed the $10 in my neighbor’s palm, I thought of a simple way to cover the chair to make it coordinate with the living room decor where my desk sits.

This is not the first time in my life that I have manifested something I wanted. I have a string of experiences that convince me of the power of the law of attraction and that intention leads to manifestation.

In this experience, even just the intention of detoxing and decluttering my body and mind increased my vibration to guide my actions to getting what I wanted.

There are some of you who don’t believe that this is proof of any connection between my thoughts and results. You may even say it was coincidental or luck.

The trickiest part of intention-manifestation is that when you don’t believe it works, it is working just perfectly for you by bringing you what you expect. You see these laws were not created by mankind and do not choose when to work or not to work. They just obey our thoughts by bringing us the equivalent.

That’s why for centuries, poets, sages and clear thinkers have all stressed the importance of our thoughts.

  • “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7
  • “What we think, we become.” Buddha
  • “A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks he becomes.”~Mahatma Ghandi
  • “Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.” ~ Unknown
  • “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Thoughts are things! And powerful things at that, when mixed with definiteness of purpose, and burning desire, can be translated into riches.”~ Napoleon Hill
  • “A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.”~James Allen

I say Wow!

Imagine what amazing things are in store for me when I actually get this program under way!

What experiences have you had with intention and manifestation?

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Roll Over Your Resolutions

pushingbigballEach year there is so much emphasis on creating New Year’s resolutions that you would think we had completed the ones from before. The truth is, of course, without radical effort and determination your “new” resolutions slip into oblivion within a few weeks as you slip back into your old habits.

Instead of creating new resolutions, why don’t we just roll over the old ones year after year until they drop off the list by being accomplished, they give birth to offspring who need tending or we lose interest in them altogether.

Our resolutions are painfully predictable and usually too general. Most people want to lose weight, exercise, quit smoking, get out of debt, and get organized.

When I thought about my resolutions from a year ago, I’m glad to report that I made progress, but they’re not the kinds of things that get neatly completed and tucked away. They grow tentacles and continue to require attention and care.

Two things on my list from last year continue to be there: become fluent in Spanish and learn to play gospel music.
I confess that these two things have been on my list since I retired three years ago and need to be chopped into doable chunks.

It’s not that I haven’t made a stab at them. I signed up for a Spanish program, Spanish Pod, that I can do from my smartphone, but dropped out after the trial period when I realized that other money-making tasks were getting pushed aside.

Learning to play gospel music stood a chance a few years ago when I discovered an online program, by Jermaine Griggs, but I was eager to travel when I first retired, so that’s what I did instead.

Maybe I’m foolish to aim for so many big goals in one year.

Or maybe it’s just that I wasn’t ready to commit.

After all, I achieved my 2008-2009 resolutions to write a book, start a blog and start a talk radio show. Yippee!

In 2010 I resolved to complete a coaches training program, start a group coaching program and visit the East Coast to see the fall foliage. Done!

The biggest challenge to completing my goals is my love of research and learning that deters me from carrying out the tasks that will accomplish them. I spend way too much time in that exploration, preparation and reflection stage. I wrote this poem to express how I was feeling about all this today.


Flora Morris Brown

I don’t need another resolution,
Another vision board,
Another fact-packed webinar,
E-books from kids who’ve scored.

I’ve gathered piles of weighty tips,
That’s how my last year was spent.
Now my starving bank account
Squeals, “It’s time to IMPLEMENT!”


I’m feeling especially confident about my resolutions for this year. Maybe that’s because they are so familiar.

But it’s more than that. They are a mix of work and play so I ensure balance in my life.

I love to entertain and attend theater and live performances, for example. Already I’ve had 2 dinner parties and am going to see Earth, Wind and Fire in February. Good start, heh?

One of my key resolutions is to take action on money-making projects that I spent so much time researching last year, one at a time. I’ve curtailed watching TV, hunkered down and resisted following bright, shiny objects.

How about you?

It’s mid-January.

How are you coming with those resolutions?

If You Want to be Great, Serve

Dr.-KingCelebrating Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Day takes many forms for many people. I’d like to focus on his call to all of us to serve.

In his speech, “The Drum Major Instinct,” King said that if you want to be great, serve. Regardless of background, education and ethnicity we can all serve others and in so doing help ourselves and all of humankind.

You don’t have to look far to find ways to serve, nor do you need loads of skill or buckets of talent. Connecting with an established charity, church or other community groups can do enormous good and be gratifying for you, even if you work with them only occasionally throughout the year.

In every age group from premature newborns to senior citizens are people longing for conversation, a visit or a touch. Local and global groups can help you find people in one of these groups if you are drawn to serve one of them.

Once I read about a neighborhood that rallied around to offer help each other when someone was recovering from illness and needed a hot meal or were unable to drive and needed transportation to medical or other appointments.

When I was in the gift basket business, the owner of a customized cookie company recognizing that I was new to the business took time from working in her booth at the California Gift Show to sit me down and give me some great marketing advice. I will always appreciated her spontaneous and generous mentoring.

Regardless of what business you are in, part of your goal is to earn a living, but serving others must come first. Just as King filled a void when he spoke out for justice and freedom, so must you fill a void in the niche you serve and show flair and style in the life you live.

There are infinite ways to earn a living in this world. The career or business you choose must be the one that fills a need within others and brings deep satisfaction to you. Even when you are working on a job that is just a stop along the way to your ideal career, give your sincere effort and best service, not just for others, but for yourself as well.

When you help others you help yourself as well.

To serve, King points out, all you need is a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love. Thankfully, these things are within everyone’s reach. To tap into them all you have to do is go within, believing that they are yours.

May Martin Luther King Jr. Day be a reminder to you to start your daily activities from your heart and soul, and carry out your interactions with your loved ones as well as your communications and exchanges with your job or your clients with integrity and joy.

(This is a slight revision of an article I published last year on Martin Luther King, Jr.’s Birthday.)