What Do Our Reactions to National Tragedies Say About Us?

Image from CreativeDonkey on flickr

Image from CreativeDonkey on flickr

When a national tragedy occurs such as the recent Boston Marathon Bombing and the Newton shootings before that,  many of us are tearful, angry, confused and frightened. We struggle to cope with and quell our own anger as well as offer comfort to children and loved ones.

With our sense of safety and security shaken, it’s natural to seek plausible explanations and quick resolutions to bring the guilty to judgment.

Twitter becomes key source of news and reactions to it

To learn of the senseless shootings, bombing and other tragedies is traumatic enough. Since the wide use of smartphone cameras and other recording devices, however, we not only witness the tragedies and reactions as they happen, but we get exposed to them over and over as they are replayed, and as they are analyzed and evaluated on Twitter.

Because of the marathon, Boston was already in the news on April 15th. When the bombings occurred,the Twitter mention of Boston increased 20,000% according to Mashable. This article points out that when something happens we hear about it perhaps first on Twitter.

Paul Sturdivant, senior executive editor of Publishing Executive magazine shares in his article, Twitter’s Self-Balancing Act Proves Its Value, the views of newsmakers in the publishing industry.  While one points out that Twitter is the best and worst place to get our news, another decides that even though Twitter shows us the ugliness of the news, it should stay the way it is.

What do our reactions to these national tragedies tell us about ourselves?

Christine Cavalier of PurpleCar.net put her observations of people into categories in her article, How People Grieve Online When National Tragedies Strike
  • Newsers feel more comfortable by tweeting and retweeting everything they can learn about the incident. It gives them a sense of control in a situation where they have none.
  • Extreme Newsers don’t create their own news but curate what others are reporting, similar to what I’m doing here.
  • Carry-on-ers who keep tweeting their normal topics without mention of the incident.
  • Backlashers go immediately into the blame game.
  • Mourners express their sadness and leave words of compassionate.

Examine Christine’s full list to determine where the following tweets fit on her list. Then share in the Comments where you fall on her list.

 

 

Whichever group you fall in, I expect that psychologists would say that it is healthy to speak about how you’re feeling. It seems offering words of comfort and aid are beneficial to the giver and recipient as well.

Lashing out with unsubstantiated blame or worse, offering violent solutions, seem less helpful and maybe even problemmatic.

We have expectations during these times

  • We expect  major companies, our leaders and news channels to  pause to make comment and extend condolences to families and praise to first responders.
  • Even though we know that Twitter is full of reports from common citizens, we put some trust in these witnesses on the scene who also provide visual and very graphic first images often before the professional news reporters can even get to the site. Even major news sources urge eyewitnesses to send their photos and accounts.
  • We search for accounts of what police investigations have uncovered even when the first few minutes before we’re even clear about what has happened.

Do you follow breaking news on Twitter? Do you tweet your reactions to your friends? What do you think our reactions to these tragedies say about us? Share your thoughts in the Comments.

What We Can Learn from Whitney Houston's Sudden Death

Whitney Houston

Whitney Houston

We don’t want to think about it, much less talk about it, but grief brought on by loss of a loved one will visit us all one day.

Whether  the loved one is a celebrity we never met, or a loved one whose terminal illness dragged on for years, we are never prepared for the grief we feel on their final day.

Years ago when my mother was placed in the critical care unit of the hospital, I was trying to be prepared for her death. When the social worker came in to talk to me I expected him to console me and offer me ways to deal with the inevitable grief. Instead, he urged me to use this time to think about how I wanted my own death handled by leaving instructions on an Advanced Directive form. On this form you  identify how you wanted your final health care handled when you can no longer  make those decisions for yourself. (Get a copy from your state, even though you are advised to seek legal assistance as well.)

At first I was appalled. How could he ask me to plan for my own death while I was anticipating that of my mother?

But in restrospect, I understand the importance and wisdom of some planning.

While you can plan for your own health decisions, how can you plan for the grief you experience when you’re the one left behind?

According to Judy Brizendine, author of Stunned by Grief, the pain is unbearable.  In our search for quick relief we often begin to hurl blame at everyone from God to the deceased.  Other times we decide to cover up our grief with alcohol, drugs or risky behavior, pretending we’re okay and moving on. And yet, the pain persists, even when we attempt to bury it.

Buried grief will find a way to surface in some area of your life.

Even though most of us won’t have the  public witness our death or the news media probe to see how our friends and  family cope with grief, as in the case of  Whitney Houston, we can learn that in grief we are all the same.

To move from grieving to healing we must all take some important steps. Brizendine suggests that we

  • acknowledgement that we are grieving
  • get an anchor, preferably someone who has been through it and who will help you when you fall

Learn more from Brizendine when she was my radio guest on Monday, February 20, 2012 in the episode, Recovering from Loss, at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/florabrown/2012/02/20/recovering-from-loss

What can we learn from Whitney Houston’s sudden death?

Death is inevitable, and it is an end.

But it’s a beginning too.

What follows that beginning depends on how we manage our grief.