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Everybody is Looking for Something
By Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. | February 23, 2008
| In the Eurythmics song “Sweet Dreams” we get a very dim view of what many people are looking for.
If what you are looking for is happiness within, you don’t fit into the categories the Eurythmics pose, but you do need to be aware of them. At first you may not recognize these folks since they wear so many disguises. Some are your relatives and loved ones, and maybe even your spouse and children. There are several ways to recognize them. |
There are those who pretend they are too weak or incapable of doing things or don’t have the money in order to manipulate you into taking care of their responsibilities. One coworker, for example, never seemed to have money when a group of us wanted to go out to lunch. In the beginning we would take turns picking up her tab. Once we figured our her game we kindly told her we’d love to have her join us whenever she could. And off we’d go without her.
Those who want you to abuse them often push your buttons hoping you will react by attacking. When you don’t respond as they hope they may try harder. Eventually they may ask “What’s wrong with you?” This is a signal that you’re no longer playing their game.
Then there are the people who get pleasure out of controlling others with tactics ranging from deception to humiliation to threats to outright physcial violence. The moment you discover you’re in the company of one of these toxic people run for your life because that’s exactly what’s at stake, your life. Even if you love this person, for your safety you must love them from afar.
You deserve happiness. If you’re reading this, you already know that deep down. What you’re looking for is within. Don’t let anyone block you from experiencing the joy and happiness that is yours.
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